The Pause

di Dean Elkins (Autore)

Dean Elkins, 2026

Nobody can make you angry without your help. That doesn't mean anger isn't real, or that the things that upset you aren't genuinely upsetting. It means the last step — the one where a jolt of feeling turns into a shouted word, a slammed door, a grudge that lasts ten years — is a step you take. And anything you take, you can learn to take differently. The Pause is a practical, plain-spoken guide to the small gap between what happens to you and how you respond to it — and how to make that gap wider. It draws on the Buddhist teaching of the "second arrow," the Stoic idea of what's actually in your control, and decades of modern psychology, and turns all of it into tools you can use today. Inside, you'll learn: • How anger actually builds, step by step, from the first spark to the moment it explodes or fades • A simple four-step pause you can use in real time, even in the middle of a hard conversation • How to find your own personal triggers — because generic advice fails when it ignores what specifically sets you off • How to reframe the stories your mind tells you before you've even noticed you're telling them • How to accept what you can't change without becoming a doormat • How to deal with the specific difficult people in your life — family, coworkers, the ones who know exactly which buttons to press • How to recover fast when you slip, without spiraling into shame • A 30-day plan to turn all of this into habit This is not a book about bottling anger up or pretending you feel nothing. It's about mastery — feeling anger fully and honestly, and then deciding what happens next, instead of letting the feeling decide for you. If you're tired of handing your peace of mind over to whoever happens to upset you that day, this book gives you a real, usable way to take it back.

• Autore: Dean Elkins
• Anno edizione: 2026
• Editore: Dean Elkins
• Formato: EPUB2 con DRMFREE
• Lingua: Inglese
• Compatibilità: Tutti i dispositivi (eccetto Kindle)
• Layout: Reflowable
• EAN: 9798233412141