The Respect Went Missing

di Vernon DeFlanders (Autore)

Manners Matter Now, 2026

Your child looked you in the eye and said no. You asked three times. Nothing moved. And somewhere in that moment, you realized—you're the parent, but you're not the one in charge. That's not a small problem. That's the whole problem. And it didn't happen because you're a bad parent. It happened because good parents were handed the wrong instructions—told that firmness might harm a child's spirit, that every "no" needed a negotiation, and that keeping the peace mattered more than holding the line. A whole generation followed that advice and ended up with homes where the child runs the show and nobody, child included, is happy about it. This book is the way back. Vernon J. DeFlanders Sr. is not a therapist or a professor. He's a grandfather—a U.S. Air Force veteran and retired federal engineer who raised his own children, made his share of mistakes, and is now helping raise a granddaughter in his later years. He has lived both roads: the old harshness that kept children in line through fear, and the modern softness that keeps them comfortable while they run wild. Neither one works. There is a third road, and this book is it. Old-school doesn't mean old-mean. It means old-sure. A parent who says a thing once and means it. Who gives a consequence without guilt and love without conditions. Who is the wall a child pushes against and the lap that same child climbs into ten minutes later. Both, at the same time, every day. Here's what you'll find inside: • Why "say it once and mean it" works—and the five-step method for giving an instruction that lands the first time, without yelling • How to handle back-talk, eye-rolls, and the flat "no"—the exact words to say in the moment so you don't come apart and your child gets the message • Consequences that actually teach something—how to choose them when you're calm, deliver them without drama, and hold them even when your child pushes back • How to keep your own cool—the tools most parents never learn, including what to do in the ten seconds before you lose it • The consistency problem—why almost everyone gets this wrong, and the one shift that makes holding the line twenty times easier • The 7-Day Respect Reset—a plain, practical action plan starting tonight, no theory required • How to raise a child for the long game—not just a quiet house this week, but an adult with a backbone, twenty years from now Every chapter ends with one small thing to try that same night, because a book that only makes you feel something isn't worth the shelf space. This one is meant to be used. Who this is for: Parents and grandparents of children ages 4–14 with typical defiance—back-talk, eye-rolling, refusal, and testing limits. If you're a time-pressed parent who needs concrete help tonight, this is it. Who should pair this with professional help: If your child has ADHD, autism, a trauma history, or serious behavioral issues such as theft, violence, self-harm, or eating disorders, this book works best alongside professional care. See the Appendix for guidance. If you've been waiting for someone to give you plain, honest help instead of one more theory, pull up a chair. The help is here.

• Autore: Vernon DeFlanders
• Anno edizione: 2026
• Editore: Manners Matter Now
• Formato: EPUB3 con DRMFREE
• Lingua: Inglese
• Compatibilità: Tutti i dispositivi (eccetto Kindle)
• Layout: Reflowable
• EAN: 9798997349110