Anxious Attachment

di Robert Smith (Autore)

Robert Smith, 2026

The message has been read for nineteen minutes - and a trapdoor just opened in your chest. None of it is in the phone. All of it is in you. But it doesn't feel like you. It feels like news: they're pulling away, you said too much, you've ruined it again. If a slow reply can hijack your whole evening, if you love with one eye always on the door, if you reach and test and over-give and then drown in shame for needing too much - this book was written for you. The name for the pattern is anxious attachment, and it is not neediness and not a character flaw. It is the logic of a love that was once real but unreliable - a nervous system that learned to watch the flame every second, because the one time it looked away was the time the flame went out. In fifteen chapters and fifteen guided practices, Anxious Attachment takes you from the first 3 a.m. spiral all the way to earned secure attachment - the well-documented truth that the steady love you didn't receive as a child can still be built as an adult. Inside, you'll learn how to: - Understand where your fear of abandonment was installed - and why it was never your fault - Recognize the spiral as it begins and calm your nervous system before you act on it - Stop the protest behaviors - the double text, the test, the threat to leave - that push love away - See why available, steady partners feel "boring" and unavailable ones feel like fate - Stop abandoning yourself inside relationships and reclaim the self you keep misplacing - Become your own secure base, so your sense of safety no longer lives in someone else's reply Grounded in attachment science and the biology of the nervous system - Bowlby, Ainsworth, Levine and Heller, Porges, Siegel, Sue Johnson - and written in a warm, exact, deeply human voice, this is the field guide for the anxiously attached heart. The watcher can finally rest. Begin on page one.

• Autore: Robert Smith
• Anno edizione: 2026
• Editore: Robert Smith
• Formato: EPUB2 con DRMFREE
• Lingua: Inglese
• Compatibilità: Tutti i dispositivi (eccetto Kindle)
• Layout: Reflowable
• EAN: 9798235976702