FAWN

di Robert Smith (Autore)

Robert Smith, 2026

You know fight, flight, and freeze. There is a fourth response - and you have built a whole life out of it. The clinician Pete Walker gave it a name: the fawn response. When the danger is a person you cannot fight and cannot flee, the nervous system reaches for one last strategy - disarm the threat by becoming pleasing, helpful, agreeable, easy. It is the survival reflex of the child who learned that safety had to be earned by managing everyone else's feelings. It kept you safe once. Now it runs your adult life from behind a curtain. If your yes leaves your mouth before you have decided anything - if you apologize for being bumped into - if you can read the mood of a room in half a second and have already started adjusting yourself to lower it - this book was written for you. FAWN is not about being nice. Niceness is a choice, and choice is exactly what fawning takes from you. This is about the automatic, bodily reflex underneath the niceness, and how to finally retrain it. In fifteen chapters and fifteen guided practices, Robert Smith maps the whole terrain - grounded in the work of Pete Walker, Stephen Porges, Bessel van der Kolk, Gabor Mat, Harriet Lerner, and Nedra Glover Tawwab - in warm, exact, jargon-free language. You will learn where the response was installed, why your body cannot say no, where your anger went, and how to come home to a self you spent years abandoning. Inside, you will learn how to: - Recognize the fawn response as the fourth trauma response - and tell it apart from genuine kindness - Trace where compulsive appeasing was installed in childhood, without blame or excavation - Quiet the exhausting hypervigilant scan that keeps you reading everyone else's moods - Feel the body's veto on the word "no" - and finally say it cleanly, without the apology cushion - Contact the anger sealed underneath the niceness and let it inform your boundaries - Tolerate another person's displeasure without collapsing back into appeasement - Rediscover what you actually want - and be known instead of merely useful This is a field guide for the long, unglamorous work of learning that it is finally safe to stop performing. If you have spent your life keeping the peace by quietly disappearing from it, start here.

• Autore: Robert Smith
• Anno edizione: 2026
• Editore: Robert Smith
• Formato: EPUB2 con DRMFREE
• Lingua: Inglese
• Compatibilità: Tutti i dispositivi (eccetto Kindle)
• Layout: Reflowable
• EAN: 9798235312920