Stop Pleasing, Start Living

di MAREN COLE (Autore)

Maren Cole, 2026

If you've spent your life saying yes when your body screamed no, you are not broken. You are not too sensitive. You are not too nice. You are a nervous system that learned to survive by appeasing - and willpower alone will never break the pattern. The yes escapes your mouth before your brain catches up, the guilt arrives before the no even lands, and somewhere underneath it all is a self you stopped being decades ago. Stop Pleasing, Start Living is a body-first recovery manual for the chronically nice. Drawing on polyvagal theory, the fawn response, and the practical work of dismantling a lifelong fawn pattern, Maren Cole maps how chronic people-pleasing is laid down in the body, why rule-based boundaries fail, and exactly what to say, feel, and practice to free yourself for good. Sixteen chapters across four parts: The Pleasing Trap, The Price You've Been Paying, The Turning, and the self that was always underneath. You'll discover: - What "fawn" actually is - and why this isn't your fault - Why the autonomic nervous system says yes before your conscious mind votes - The three-second pause that can save your life, and how to install it - Why rule-based boundaries fail and what a felt-sense boundary actually is - Short no, long no, no-with-warmth - a library of scripts for the moments your throat closes - Guilt surfing: how to ride the discomfort wave without collapsing back into yes - How to practice being disliked in small, recoverable doses until it stops feeling like death - How to find the self you stopped being and want what you actually want For the eldest daughters, the office helpers, the friend everyone calls, the partner who keeps the peace - and the body that has been keeping the score the whole time. For readers of The Disease to Please by Harriet Braiker, Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab, and Not Nice by Aziz Gazipura. You were never too much. You were a child trying to stay safe. You are allowed to come home now.

• Autore: MAREN COLE
• Anno edizione: 2026
• Editore: Maren Cole
• Formato: EPUB3 con DRMFREE
• Lingua: Inglese
• Compatibilità: Tutti i dispositivi (eccetto Kindle)
• Layout: Reflowable
• EAN: 9798235214880