Three Ways to Love

di Gregory Bicaj (Autore)

Ellis Marwood (Narratore)

ADMX Publishing, 2026

What if the chaos in your relationships is not a personal failing, but a pattern wired into you long before you could name it? In Three Ways to Love: The Neuroscience of Attraction, neuroscientist and clinical psychologist Gregory Bicaj draws on twenty years of laboratory research and clinical practice to reveal the hidden architecture beneath every relationship you have ever had — the invisible blueprint formed in early childhood that quietly shapes who you are drawn to, how you fight, how close you let someone get, and how quickly you pull away. Grounded in the latest findings from attachment science, predictive coding, neuroplasticity, and social neuroscience, this book offers an entirely new way of understanding love — not as mystery, fate, or weakness, but as a deeply biological, learnable, and changeable system. Bicaj introduces readers to the three dominant attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, and disorganized — along with the secure foundation that each can grow toward. He explains why the most electrifying chemistry sometimes signals danger rather than compatibility, how the anxious-avoidant loop keeps millions of people locked in cycles of craving and withdrawal, and why genuine love often feels less exciting than destructive love — at first. But this is not a book about being trapped by your past. It is a book about the neuroscience of change. Across sixteen chapters, Bicaj translates complex research into vivid, practical insight: how to read attachment signals in a first conversation or a dating profile, how to tell the difference between growth pain and repetitive pain, how to fight in ways that heal instead of erode, and how to build the kind of relationship that functions as both safe haven and secure base — a place that genuinely feels like home. Six detailed case studies bring the science to life, showing real turning points in real couples — the moment an avoidant partner admits panic instead of fleeing, the moment an anxious partner realizes distance is not abandonment, the moment a disorganized person first separates past terror from present safety. The central claim of the book is both scientifically rigorous and quietly radical: your attachment blueprint was written in pencil, not ink. The patterns that have governed your love life were learned through experience, and they can be revised through new experience. Earned security — the capacity for stable, warm, and honest connection — is not reserved for people who had perfect childhoods. It is available to anyone willing to understand what they are actually carrying into love, and to do something about it. For readers of Jonathan Haidt and Gabor Maté, Three Ways to Love is the book that finally explains not just how love works in the brain, but how to make it work better in your life.

• Autore: Gregory Bicaj
• Narratore: Ellis Marwood
• Durata in (hh:mm:ss): 06:38:10
• Anno edizione: 2026
• Editore: ADMX Publishing
• Lingua: Inglese
• EAN: 9798905809316