The Willingness to Be Unliked: The Japanese Philosophy That Transforms Money and Happiness

di Ruben Collins (Autore)

Clemence Shawn, 2024

Let's start by acknowledging a hard truth: most people crave approval. We live in a world that tells us, from day one, to seek validation. Good grades, praise from our parents, likes on social media—all these are signals that we're doing something right. They're the cues that we're living our lives the "correct" way, whatever that means. And yet, for all this striving, how many of us actually feel satisfied? How many of us, even with all the accolades and thumbs-up, feel genuinely happy? Here's the kicker: this chase for approval? It's a trap. A big, sticky, seductive trap that keeps us from living authentically. It ties us down, makes us dance to the beat of someone else's drum, and in the end, it leaves us empty. Because the truth is, the more you seek to please others, the further you stray from who you truly are. And let's not kid ourselves—there's no shortage of people out there ready to tell you exactly how you should live. They're lined up, scripts in hand, eager to cast you in their vision of who they think you should be. But when you buy into that, when you let yourself be shaped by their expectations, you give away your power. Now, here's where things get interesting. There's an age-old philosophy that says, "Enough with the people-pleasing." It comes from Japan, but it's not about sushi or cherry blossoms or Zen gardens. It's about something much deeper and, dare I say, much more radical. It's about embracing the willingness to be unliked. Yeah, you heard me right: to be unliked. To stand firm in who you are, regardless of whether people give you a pat on the back or a dirty look. "But what does this have to do with money?" you might be asking. "Isn't money about numbers, about figures on a bank statement?" Sure, if you want to reduce it to that. But money is so much more than numbers. It's energy. It's freedom. It's a reflection of your values and choices. When you're caught up in trying to make everyone else happy, you end up spending your money—your energy, your time—in ways that don't actually serve you. You buy things to impress others, to fit in, to signal that you're successful, that you're worthy. And all the while, your true needs, your true desires, get buried under a mountain of debt and dissatisfaction. This Japanese philosophy flips that script. It says, "Enough of that nonsense." It tells you to use your money to create a life that aligns with your true self, not the self that's been molded by others. And when you do that, when you start to spend in a way that reflects your genuine values, something amazing happens. You find that you need less to be happy. You find that you're no longer chasing the next big thing, the next shiny object. You're content with what you have because what you have is truly yours. When you embrace the willingness to be unliked, something amazing happens. You find your people. You find those who see you, who appreciate you, who love you for who you truly are. You find a tribe that supports you, that lifts you up, that encourages you to keep going, even when the path is hard. And that, my friends, is worth more than all the approval in the world. This book is not a magic bullet. It's not going to solve all your problems overnight. But it will challenge you. It will make you think. It will push you to question the assumptions that have been holding you back. And if you're willing to do the work, if you're willing to take the leap, it will change your life in ways you can't even imagine. So, buckle up. It's going to be a wild ride. But I promise you, it's worth it. Because at the end of the day, the only approval that truly matters is your own. And when you have that, when you are truly living for yourself, everything else falls into place.

• Autore: Ruben Collins
• Anno edizione: 2024
• Editore: Clemence Shawn
• Formato: EPUB2 con DRMFREE
• Lingua: Inglese
• Compatibilità: Tutti i dispositivi (eccetto Kindle)
• Layout: Reflowable
• EAN: 9798227997371